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Yes, but if your parents chose the husband for you one could say that they chose a guy that respects you?!
May be or may be not. I don’t think parents just choose a guy just by his job or looks. They enquire and take a lot of time to select perfect partner for their loving daughter. But there is no 100% guarantee. Also there is no 100% guarantee that husband respects his wife in love marriage.It just depends on the right guy we/parents choose.
These days no one are blindly marrying the guy parents chose. They just talk to him,observe him,know the family details and then time to say “yes/no”.If love marriages are successful.. Why the rate of divorces are more in love marriages and only 1% in arranged marriages???! Moreover all arranged marriages have parents support compared to love marriages..but some love marriages are successful even though there is no support of parents..
So, I think , it’s not the matter of love/arranged … It’s the matter of choosing the right soulmate.
Yes but maybe there are more divorces in love marriages because people feel more free and have less family pressure ?
My cousin had an arranged weeding and was never happy about it…
True respect is the most important thing of all! Love can make us so happy but you may also feel a lot of deception if you are waiting for a fairy tale..
amulya, where you have those numbers from?
However maybe it is good to have a mix – parents chose a first selection and then we do the final one?
But also parents can be wrong and i do not think that arranged marriages stick together because they are better fits but rather because people are more conservative?!
I don’t think marriage works because people are more conservative?
I had an arranged marriage and I know this guy a year before marriage .I really had no regrets.we love, respect and support each other. This is how my marriage works!!! For me both worked better for marriage. After marriage (love/arranged), it purely depends on understanding and respecting each other.You are very lucky Amulya! But don’t you think you could have been even happier with a man you chose that you fell in love with and that would have chosen you not because of your family but because of who you are? Don’t you feel it lacks romanticism to have arranged wedding?
May also be happier.And I am not by the side of only Love OR only Arranged marriages. Both had the happiest couples. So I consider the way that couples stay happy in marriage and not the type of marriage.
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